Janny Juddly Therapies Spiritual Counselling, Psychotherapy & Life Coaching
in Shepshed near Loughborough, Ashby and Online

Home. Alternative Logo


"The bad news is you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is there’s no ground." – Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche


Home. Self image

Welcome!

My name is Janny Juddly, and I am a Spiritual Psychotherapist and Counsellor and Spiritual Life Coach, on a journey of spiritual awakening, who works holistically with the mind-body-spirit connection.

The way that Psychotherapy and Spirituality inform and enrich and expand each other has taken me on one of the most exciting and profound journeys of this lifetime, and I have loved accompanying others on similar journeys of their own. I say similar, because no two journeys are ever the same, and so what I can offer is to walk with you, to neither lead nor follow, but rather to share with you what you are discovering and experiencing and to help you to make your own sense of that.

For me, the experience of spiritual awakening is actually a process of remembering. I have no doubt whatsoever that, deep within you, you have all you need, all the wisdom you seek, all the answers to the questions you find yourself asking. They are your answers, not mine. However, I have walked a similar path, and still am walking, and so I have some tools, some thoughts, some ways of facilitating and discussing, which others have found really helpful.

If you have found me, then you were meant to do so. There are no accidents, only synchronicities. The right time, the right place, the right person. So thank you for showing up as planned. Let's walk together awhile!

Welcome to the adventure!

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online


Home. Flower on swing

Why 'spirituality' matters

For many people, spirituality is connected to large questions about life and identity. Usually, we find ourselves asking such questions during or following a significant crisis, turning-point or change in our lives.

This is very often a major loss, enforced change, illness or bereavement, but it can also happen as a result of something we read, see or hear, or perhaps a conversation which leads us to question and think more deeply than we maybe have before.

Sometimes we find ourselves questioning all we have thought, believed and valued, or the things we felt were important to us as a result of becoming disheartened or dissatisfied with our life as it is. We long for a deeper sense of connection, purpose or meaning but don't know where to begin.

Seeking spiritually-based counselling or psychotherapy or spiritual life coaching often involves finding ourselves wanting to make sense of something that has happened - to ourselves or to someone we love- or of something that is happening right now that is overwhelming and for which we seek a spiritual perspective.

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online


Home. Walking into the storm

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember
how you made it through, how you managed to survive.
You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over.
But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm,
you won’t be the same person who walked in.
That’s what this storm’s all about."

~Haruki Murakami


Home. Tree lined road

What is 'spirituality?

Spirituality is a broad concept with room for many perspectives. In general, it includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves, and it typically involves a search for meaning in life. As such, it is a universal human experience—something that touches us all. People may describe a spiritual experience as sacred or transcendent or simply a deep sense of aliveness and interconnectedness.

Some may find that their spiritual life is intricately linked to their association with a church, temple, mosque, or synagogue. Others may pray or find comfort in a personal relationship with God or a higher power. Still others seek meaning through their connections to nature or art. Like your sense of purpose, your personal definition of spirituality may change throughout your life, adapting to your own experiences and relationships.

Christina Puchalski, MD, Director of the George Washington Institute for Spirituality and Health, contends that:

"Spirituality is the aspect of humanity that refers to the way individuals seek and express meaning and purpose and the way they experience their connectedness to the moment, to self, to others, to nature, and to the significant or sacred."


Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online


Home. Stalk at sunset

Questions that bring people to seek spiritual answers

There may be all sorts of different ways these questions present themselves to us. We have often gone through experiences which have been incredibly painful, and from which we are finding it really problematic to recover. Often we find we can't can move on because we don't seem to be able to settle all the questions that keep coming into our head, for which we are unable to find satisfactory answers.

The most common questions that people find themselves struggling with, and which are usually at the heart of the help they are seeking are:

Am I a good person?
What is the meaning of my/their suffering?
What is my connection to the world/universe around me?
Do things happen for a reason?
How can I live my life in the best way possible?

Ruth Beckmann Murray and Judith Proctor Zenter write that:

“The spiritual dimension tries to be in harmony with the universe, and strives for answers about the infinite, and comes into focus when the person faces emotional stress, physical illness, or death.”


All of us come up against the spiritual dimension in life, even if we might not immediately choose those words, or see our search for understanding and meaning in those terms.

If you are searching, if you want to understand why things happen, if you have questions about who you are or where you fit in, then you are addressing spiritual questions,and you are engaging with the spiritual dimension in yourself.

If you'd like some company, some signposts, some wisdom from a fellow traveller, I'm here to help.

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online




Home. Open shells

Our need for answers

These are questions that every single one of us asks at various points in our lives. Such experience is part of what it is to be human. They may appear to be simply 'questions' for which no-one can give us an answer. Alternatively, they may be questions to which our religious beliefs or religious faith supplies answers, but with which we find ourselves struggling or at odds.

We want an answer, or we want to find a way to live with no answer.

Without necessarily realising it, we have found ourselves on what I would understand to be a spiritual journey. Some would call it a journey of spiritual awakening, others might call it a journey of trying to find a sense of meaning or purpose.

Whatever we choose to call it, it is a quest for answers that fit well with who we are and the way we understand the world. It is a deeply personal and individual journey, and it is ours alone. No-one can make that journey for us, for no-one else has walked in our shoes.

Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online




Home. Storm

"STORM"

Storm

I cried out in the
middle of the storm:
I cannot do this,
it is too much,
do not ask it.
And the voice whispered:
This too shall pass.
Let it be.
All is as it should be.
All is well.

I cried out as the rain
lashed and drenched
and chilled me
to the bone:
I am not strong enough,
I cannot withstand it,
this will wash me away,
I will drown in it.
And the voice whispered:
You are strong,
you are powerful,
stand firm and it will
wash over you.
This too shall pass.
Let go, let be.
All is as it should be.
All is well.

I gasped as the wind
took my breath away,
tearing and swirling and raging,
almost knocking me over.
Struggling to stay
on my feet,
I cried out in fear:
I need this to stop
I cannot hold on
I must let go soon.
And the voice whispered,
Your roots are deeper
than you think,
and you are far wiser
than you think.
Bend and turn and let go.
This too shall pass.
Let this flow and move through you.
All is exactly as it needs to be.
All is well.

I cried more tears
than I knew I had inside me,
and sobbed more protests
than I knew were in me.
I became the storm,
I became the rain,
raged with the wind itself.
I gave myself up,
I let go and became one
with each moment,
as the storm whipped
into a frenzy.
I held on and held on,
as I shook and bent and turned
and broke and yielded.
And let go...
And let go...

And finally,
finally, finally...
at long last
the storm began to ease,
the sky became kinder,
the rain fell more gently.
The wind became a breeze,
warm and gentle
tender and soothing
and I remembered
all the voice had whispered.
And I knew
that I was not only the storm,
and the rain and the wind,
but the voice also.
I knew that the voice
was mine,
and yet not mine alone
but our voices,
countless voices.
All of us.
One voice.

I knew that where I had been
we all had been,
where I was, we all were.
And that where I now stood
we were all now standing.
I remembered this voice
down the ages, beyond and beneath and in all.
And I let go.
And let be.
And let be.

@ Janny Juddly 2014
From "DANCERS AMONGST THE STARS"
Available in all formats on Amazon


Home. Swings

How I can help

Others have, however, walked similar journeys, asked similar questions, struggled similarly to find adequate answers, and found themselves growing astonishingly in the process.

Those others can respect and honour our journey as fellow travellers, and can offer wisdom, guidance, companionship and support by walking respectfully alongside us as we make our own journey.

As an experienced psychotherapist, coach and trainer, I will offer you that companionship and support, and I will share whatever wisdom and guidance I have come to possess should you ask for it. However, I will not impose it, nor will I in any way attempt to make my answers your answers.

What I will do is walk with you, and use all my skills and expertise to smooth your way and to make the journey as gentle, as profound, as enriching, as satisfying and as life-transforming as I know it can be.

And I will stay with you while you find your way through to the other side, knowing that there you will find the freedom you seek!

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online


Home. Light pouring in

Why spirituality is central to wellbeing

The Royal College of Psychiatrists define spirituality as involving experiences of:

a deep-seated sense of meaning and purpose in life
a sense of belonging
a sense of connection of ‘the deeply personal with the universal’
acceptance, integration and a sense of wholeness


It further goes on to say that people who have a sense of the spiritual in their lives benefit from:

better self control, self esteem and confidence
faster and easier recovery (often through healthy grieving of losses and through recognising their strengths)
better relationships – with self, with others, with their wider community / creation / nature
a new sense of meaning, hope and peace of mind
a greater capacity to accept and live with their continuing problems in a positive way

Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online


Home. Man walking

What I help with

I specialise in helping you with:

Spirituality
The search for meaning
The search for purpose
Looking at the 'big picture'
Making sense of what's happened
How to go forward from where you are
How to leave the past behind
Letting go of guilt and blame
Overcoming fear and anxiety
Not knowing who you are
Feeling lost or stuck
Feeling you're pretending rather than being real





This often involves working with:

Loss
Bereavement
Change
Life Crises
Depression
Anxiety
Trauma
Grief
Guilt
Childhood Trauma or Loss
Abuse
Abandonment
Rejection
Jealousy
Possessiveness
Lack of meaning
Lack of purpose
Blame
Forgiveness
Responsibility
Choice
Identity
Empathy
Personality Disorder
Eating Disorder
Self-harm
Sexuality
Relationship difficulties
Bipolar
Feeling lost
Lack of motivation

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online



Home. Window ledge

Emma's Story

When I first thought about talking with Janny, I was really thinking, "What can I lose?" I didn't actually think anything could or would change, but I felt so bad and so low and just so angry I knew I needed some help.

That's part of the trouble, of-course - the anger. It made me so bitter and so vengeful I didn't know how I could ever get free. There was also a part of me that didn't want to let go of my anger. Some of that was because it felt like the only thing that was holding me together, but also it felt like if I gave the anger up I was saying it didn't matter, it was okay. That I was okay. And I wasn't.

When a friend who had spoken with Janny a couple of years before suggested that I get in touch with her for spiritual counselling, I laughed out loud. What a ridiculous suggestion! I mean, the last thing I felt was spiritual. I wanted to shout and stomp at whoever was out there for letting it all happen! I wasn't sure if there was anything out there, but if there was it was either cruel and sadistic or it just didnt care. Either way, why would I want to do spiritual counselling.

I also felt a bit hurt and ashamed when my friend suggested it. It felt like she was saying that I ought to let go of all my anger and be a 'nice' person. At least, thats what the word 'spiritual' meant to me. Sort of endlessly kind and loving and never minding. Well I did mind, and I didn't want to say it was okay and forgive everybody. My friend was amused, but kind, and told me that was the last thing Janny was likely to suggest. She said she'd just get it. She told me to get in touch and just give it a go. So I did.

The first thing that struck me about Janny was that she laughed a lot. The second was that she said it just like it is. The third was that she was unshockable, and was perfectly comfortable with me being angry, and the fourth was that she didn't have any investment in me having certain beliefs or understanding things in a particular way. She just wanted to help me find my own answers. And slowly I did. It wasn't all fun, some of it was painful and tough. But it was movement, and I was no longer stuck and holding on to things I couldn't change. I was coming to understand that the change needed to happen in me.

I found myself wanting to make sense of things. Me, my life experiences, my place in it all. I'd never have thought of myself as a 'spiritual' person. But then I think I'd misunderstood what that meant.

It's amazing what a difference it makes to have thought through the 'big things, to have a picture of how I understand the way things to work. I have found myself questioning, exploring, challenging, picking and choosing, accepting, rejecting, finding out my philosophy, what makes sense to me and sits right.

And my anger is gone. I realised how pointless and draining it was eventually. I realised there were things I needed to do instead of staying stuck. It had all been so destructive. I feel free now, not weighed down. And the Universe feels benign rather than cruel and uncaring. In fact, I see meaning in things I always thought were just random, and I've learned to be reflective and kinder to myself. And that's made me more understanding and compassionate generally. In a genuine and real way. Not because I'm being 'nice.'

I really like the person I'm becoming. I know that I'm on a journey to me, and I catch glimpse sometimes of the wonder and oneness, the inter-connectedness of everything. It comes with such a profound sense of belonging, of hopefulness, and of peace and safety.

I understand now why Janny calls it a journey, and says that it's a process not an event. I'm so excited to see where the journey takes me.


Why not get in touch?

I work:

Face to face
Via telephone
Via Skype
Via Whatsapp
Via Messenger
Via email

Janny Juddly Therapies
Spiritual Counselling & Psychotherapy
And Spiritual Life Coaching
In Shepshed for Loughborough, Ashby, Kegworth
and Online

Home. Alternative Logo

click
©2018 Janny Juddly — powered by WebHealer
Cookies are set by this site. To decline them or find out more visit our cookie page